Sitting in my house all alone...

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NG:

I dont know if this is gonna help. You did mention 'codependent'
I have to tell you i've been married for 11 years and my W filed this jan. I was a miserable wreak. None of my family understood why i was taking this so bad. I could not detach for more than a month. My W said she left because she could not take me being constantly panicky and anxious and depressed. I recently found this book that has been a godsend. It is called "anxious to please". Google it. It cost me about $8.00 at the half price bookstore. If you are a codependent person, this book will help you enormously. I have been reading this book for a couple of days now and feel that I need to work on myself first before i even think about the M.

I would venture and say, go ahead and now figure out if you need to do any personal growth. If there is, take care of it first. If the changes are positive and your W sees it, chances are she might like the new you and come back. Then your M will be stronger than before. If not, you will be in a much better place emotionally.