"Marriage is a partnership. We both bring things to the table that the other cannot." That's teamwork! Partnership has more to do with "equality" and "independence" - and I don't think this is what marriage is abouti,i,e, being an "equal partner" - you simply are "unequal", so deal with it, play your part.
"If she is depressed, it could take some time. Figure a couple weeks to get assessed, 3 weeks to see if the meds are helping, .." I'd get to the "code" first. An then there are ways to take care of the physical or the chemical side other than those "meds".
