I read some of your comments and I could swear my W wrote them. A few weeks back she said this
"you were an a$$, but then again, I always knew that. I thought I could handle it but I wasn't strong enough. You became a bigger a$$"
Sound familiar?
She was right in her eyes I was being an a$$, in my eyes I was just being me, turns out they are one in the same. A lot of times we don't even see what we are doing or what we are saying. I love my W very much but I have always loved her, how then could she not feel loved? This is the problem most of us men are faced with. It takes different actions from our W for us to start to see the light, for me, it was my W leaving, reading a hundred books on relationships and finding this website. I don't know what will work with your H but know there is a light bulb that will go off at one point.
