Before all this went down for me. My wife was correct in that she felt I only tuched her when I wanted sex. If she gave me a hug I saw it as an invitation to more...when in fact it was just a hug.
XYZ and Bolt, sadly man, if your wives are similar to mine, and you were similar to me, then it is going to take time.
Straight guy talk.
Take matters into your own hand. Yes I mean exactly what you infer from this. Afterward, yeah you still want your wife, but you're not pi55ed off about it.
This impression, right or wrong in their head, you put there over time, it is going to take time and consistent actions on your part to change her mind.
Hug her and walk away, kiss her without expecting her to throw you down on the floor, rub her back simply to rub her back and not figure out how to unsnap her bra. Show affection, without expecting more from it.
Be the one to break off contact first...because you know what? This CAN be played like a game. Aim to win.
Try this for awhile, seriously put effort into this, and I really think you'll be surprised with the rewards.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
