Currently in the house things aren't toxic. It still mostly feels like a happy and loving home (because of the kids), but at the same time I'm beginning to feel uncomfortable in the house.

Now that I'm supporting my W's desire to seperate maybe things will change, but I'm not optimistic and as a result I sit here looking forward to seperation. Like I said earlier, I'm sure it will be short lived. The next time my W gives me a positive sign I made change. For now, it's slowly moving towards seperation. Honestly probably the earliest we would seperate would be the end of August (waiting to spring to sell the house, time to sell the house, waiting for the closing date) so in reality it's a long-time.

I really need to just do everything I can to move on. I alread know, that my love for my W isn't going to die anytime soon - and if it does then I guess it wasn't meant to be.

LIS, thanks for talking about me as a parent in a good light. I really do try, and I am lucky to have 3 amazing D's, but I'm always trying to be better. This sitch maybe the biggest challenge to my abilities as a parent - especially if we seperate, but I'll figure it out.

I guess when it comes to the sex thing, how long is it reasonable to expect someone with a "normal" sex drive to be abstinent? Heck, maybe my W is waiting me out knowing how bad I want to have sex, figuring when I get to that point I'll leave or I'll cheat?

Me - 34
W - 33
M - 8 years
T - 15 years
D7, D5, D2
Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY"
W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011