The affair and the emails can now be put in the past in my mind. I will not ask questions regarding the OW or the details of the affair. Wife probably understands now that I know many of the details. The emails are also in the past. Put them behind us and only look towards the future. Detach as many of you have told me. Think positive about the future and not dwell on the hurt from the past.
The problem with this, is that you are assuming your wife feels the same way...
The damage this caused her is just as painful as the damage she caused you..
Yes, YOU can put it out of your mind, but you have to allow that to be her decision when/if she is ready to as well....
And yes, you said put them behind US..../\ /\ /\
Originally Posted By: sparks
Emails are over. Dishonesty is over. We start fresh. Honest.
Sparks, I do not personally know you. With that, let me say that anyone that tells me to trust them....sends up multiple red flags for me...
It is easy to say that it is over....
They are just words my friend....
Until you can look in the mirror and figure out WHY it was there to begin with...You may be beating a dead horse here..
So let me ask you...WHY was there just as much deceit from you as there was from her...
This isn't Tit for Tat here..
Fear?
Control ?
????
Originally Posted By: sparks
I am sure wife somehow feels
I'm sure you don't know how she feels....
These answers aren't really for me bro....they are for you.
I hope you can reflect and find them...
Sometimes these things hurt. They did for me, and although I can't speak for them...I'm certain they did for Cat, Figgy, J3B, etc....
I see you met Figgy......Good move, she's a smart cookie...
