Listen, SIC, you may be right. The separation WAS the right choice for me. It might be for you too. Things just got so toxic in my house, that it was suffocating. I would sit down the street for an hour or two on the phone with friends or family just dreading going back home. But prepare for the fallout.
Your W is a child and I wouldn't worry about the D's comments. I think you are a fantastic dad. And I bet everything that I have all of your daughters feel the same exact way. They need you and you are there for them. But while you are in the house together, stick to the routine. It will make your life more peaceful (or as peaceful as it is going to get at the moment).
Unfortunately, I got like your W with the sex thing. My desire really went to nothing the more ignored I felt. And the more I pushed him away, the more ignored I felt. It was a nasty catch-22 for which I didn't find a good solution for, nor did I try until the breakdown happened. I'm glad that you made the decision not to do anything stupid. You don't need that drama in your life right now.
