W in long PA with another woman. I'm devastated.

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After looking over my three points concerning the emails, I am wondering how my wife will respond. Possible responses:

1. Yes you deceived me. I don't care if you took high road. That was my property and those were my private emails.

2. If I tell her there is a copy of the emails in a safe place for my protection that I hope to burn with her in the future, how could she believe that I am putting the emails behind us? By putting the affair behind us with it, is that healthy? Would part of the rebuilding and reconciliation process require that the affair be talked about in the future?

3. Yeah you know about the details in the email, but you have no idea about x, y , and z. There is still a ton you don't know that I will keep from you.

Sorry to play devil's advocate in my head. I am just debating bringing these three points to couples therapy in order to start the healing of the betrayal from both ends. I understand it will take time, but I am also a problem solver (I guess most men are).