He's the fool, not you, Dixie. Hugs to you my friend.
Valentine's Day... have you seen the movie? In one part of the storyline single women get together for an anti-V day dinner. Love that idea!
The V Day after my ex-boyfriend cheated (I found out in January), I decided I was not going to sit around alone and cry like I did after the XH left. I wasn't married to him, I wasn't completely crushed or mourning that R or even thought about trying to save it so I was open to going out that night without too much baggage. So, I signed up for speed dating. 5 minute dates for 2 hours. 5 minutes - long enough to see what was out there, feel attractive, have some laughs. I never exchanged personal info with any of them (wasn't ready to date and wasn't attracted to any of them anyway). Because I had no family nearby, no single friends... I didn't have many options to get out of the house. The good thing about the speed dating... everyone else there was in the same situation as me.... alone on V-Day and trying to look forward instead of wallowing in self pity. We were all comfortably uncomfortable and had a good sense of humor about it.
Do I recommend that for you? No. You're too fragile right now for that.
So why am I telling you this story? Because you need to find SOMETHING to do. Something fun, safe and uplifting instead of sitting around the house mourning. You won't be cheating on him if you dare to have fun on V day without him. Go see a movie, go to the pound and find a new puppy, go out with a girlfriend, go to meetup.com (not a dating site, it's for people who share hobbies and interests) and sign up for a get-together. Go on-line and look for a anti-V day party somewhere... surely a restaurant or club or group or church will have one somewhere near you. Or go visit a nursing home and volunteer for the evening... they always need help and V Day is surely hard for the widows and widowers there.
Not only will you feel better doing something productive that day but you'll feel for the next few days because you have plans.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
Because you need to find SOMETHING to do. Something fun, safe and uplifting instead of sitting around the house mourning. You won't be cheating on him if you dare to have fun on V day without him. Go see a movie, go to the pound and find a new puppy, go out with a girlfriend, go to meetup.com (not a dating site, it's for people who share hobbies and interests) and sign up for a get-together. Go on-line and look for a anti-V day party somewhere... surely a restaurant or club or group or church will have one somewhere near you. Or go visit a nursing home and volunteer for the evening... they always need help and V Day is surely hard for the widows and widowers there. 