bolt, i am patting you on the back you have turned things around in such a great way you have realized what your wife needs and given in spades it's funny husband always used to say i never gave him "credit" for the things he would do i thought that he should, as my partner, just do them but now i realize, that a kind word for something that he did would have gone a long way by the way...who is your new friend??? "honey"??? really??? and yes, people get let go for someone else's perception happens all the time now yikes anyway - bolt have a great day and a big hug and even bigger pat on the back from your pal in nyc