Thank you SIC and Alamo for the welcome. I wish you the best in your sitch as well.

I didn't know what detaching meant until yesterday after going to LiveStrong and reading about it. I can still meet my W needs and detach at the same time. I know that it is going to take me time, but I will have to get there as quickly as possible.

Quick update since yesterday. The W came downstairs into my room as I was watching basketball and wanted to talk. I turned off the TV to have an uninterrupted conversation. She told me she is ready to file, because she feels that her life is at a standstill. I told her that I understand. I also told her that it is the last thing in the world that I want to do, but that I love her enough that I want her to be happy even if that means I have to let her go. She said that made her angry, because she felt like I didn't care for a long time. Why did it have to get to this point for me to get it? We talked for awhile. She continuously changes our history and blames me for all of her unhappiness. I listen and validate her feelings as much as I can.

There is so much more to cover, but that is the nuts and bolts of the update.

Me:45 ExW:48
M:04/97
3 Bombs & 2 ReCons
1st BD 11/10
D Finalized 4/20
D-16 S-14
Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa