Bolt, I couldn't get on the boards last night so sorry for not reporting in! I think I did meet my goal yesterday but in the way that I had thought and posted. I have a new volunteer treasurer at my office and she gets flustered very easily and I get flustered very easily with people like that. In fairness, she is taking this job over from someone who left it all in shambles. So, when she came in yesterday as usual she was very disorganized and flustered, I kept my cool and just tried to help her walk thru some things. I was just reacting very mellow and focused. It wasn't forced, but I noticed SHE was calmer and my energy was better spent this way then getting angry and defensive.
Today's goal is to make amends with SIL#2 who I've had issues with in the past. Not major ones, but let's just say that I was very critical and judgemental. I am meeting her tonight for coffee. And I'm going in with the mindset that when I treat people this way, how do I expect them to treat me back? And, what I'm looking to get out of the situation. Obviously, I was only encouraging more of the same.
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
