WOW. I just read your thread and you are a very strong woman with a clear mind and logical thought process.
I don't know much about the MLC but what little I do know sounds like your H. Is this the case? I have no idea.
It's amazing to me how when I read others stories or hear about other H they remind me of me in their attitude and response to their W's. When I learn to hear what the W is saying and see the hurt in their words I am shocked H don't see it to.
The truth is most guys are completely clueless and the most of the stuff we say flies off the cuff without much thought as to what we are saying.
I would sometimes tell my W when I was wrong about something "I am sorry but don't get use to it because I am hardly ever wrong"
Even as I type those words I get goose bumbs. That sounds like such a ahole comment, yet I always said jokingly or playing around, however I knew and she knew there was a certain level of truth to what I was saying.
The point is most of the time the words H use are not meant to hurt are cut as deeply as they are received.
