this is an interesting thread i am actually keeping in touch with a friend of mine, on another continent who is going through what i am except that he is the one leaving the relationship his wife is in pursuing mode and he tells me that everytime she grabs him to kiss him or try to initiate sex or just hold his hand he feels like the cat in the pepe le pew cartoons for those who don't remember, pepe (a skunk) was always trying to kiss and hug this cat, who was just trying to get away from him it is enlightening to hear from him as he is the one in my husbands position so i know that pursing someone who feels like they don't want that now, is absolutely the wrong thing he also says it makes him feel awkward and suffocating
