But I don't want to seriously confront for fear it will end.
Do nothing out of fear, and definitely not because it might end. You cannot control what he will do. You can only control what you can do. If he is cheating and for that long, then he is used to the lie. You have just "found out" so it is new to you.
I know you love him ... this is hard. Believe me, I went through the crying, the not eating, the feeling of helplessness, and despairing over the break of our family, the feelings of failure ... omigosh, I know ... we, on the bb all know to one extent of another. You are in good company, yet I bet we all wish you didn't have to be here.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim