just so sad

[BeingMe]

Hi Abbey .... here's my answer from your post on Angels thread - hope it helps:

To answer Abbey1989:

Start your own thread on Newcomers (you will find you will get a lot of responses there), so we can answer your issues directly. In the meantime, I don't think confrontation is a good idea right now, but I would consider making sure your financial house is in order, get to know your know your rights in the case of separation or divorce (I know, ugly words, but if what you say is true, you may have to face them, if not go through them), have a separate bank account. These things will help you take back your power if your H decides to leave for the OW. Often, they are just waiting for the last child to graduate high school or college. So, be prepared, but be silent. He will also try and blame you ... which is not true ...no marital problem is solved through one person cheating on the other. If he is that unhappy, he would leave.

GAL (get a life)... go places, start a new hobby, go to the gym, go out with friends, etc. Whatever you enjoy doing.

Ultimately, you have to decide for youself, but make sure you are in a strong place before you make a move. Be certain that you are strong enough to repudiate any blame he may place on you. Sometimes we LBS take on all the faults of the M.

Take care, and hope to see you in Newcomers.