As the Bolt Turns

[Bolt]

I've been following this thread for a week or so while trying to wrap my head around my own sitch.(2nd time around for me)

Let me get this straight. You sexually harass a women at work, get fired over it. (I'm sorry but in this day and age you don't get fired for just goofing around or someone taking something the wrong way), you lie about it to your wife. causing your marital problems.

Furthermore, you like to pat yourself on the back, a lot. Honey, I got some news for you, you aren't husband of the year because you drive your wife home when she's sick or take care of her. That is your job as husband and what it should be from day one. It's not husband of the year it's called being a husband.

I don't say this to be mean, but I say it to get you to realize that the things you are doing don't deserves special merit just because you never did them before. They are stuff you should've been doing all a long and if you don't realize that, you will be back here sooner rather than later.
Cuz I'll tell you that the moment you think you are doing work that is special or worthy of Husband of the year, when she stops responding, and she will, you will start feeling like you are superior to her and like you are better than her. Then the resentment builds.

Please just recognize that.

Oh believe me, I recognize. I'm not too sure I'm "patting myself on the back." I guess you don't read too closely either.

I never did sexually harass at all. It was perceived not even by the person who was the "accuser" but her boyfriend. He is the one who brought it to HR and since it was brought and I was in a supervisor position, I had NO leg to stand on.

And yes, I DID get fired for goofing off and someone taking things the wrong way. You do realize this is 2011, right? Get a clue.

I don't have the time or the energy to get into the entire case with someone that I won't waste zeroes and ones with.

My "harassment" situation is definitely not the first and won't be the last.

Lied to my W? Not even close. I told her everything that was going on from day one. Was it right? NO and I admit that. Did she enable? She sure did and admits it.

And the thing about special merit? I never said I was a boy scout and deserved a badge for driving Miss W to work. Should I have done that in the past? Hell yeah, I should have. Maybe I wouldn't have been in this sitch in the first place had I done that.

I guess we can't all be clairvoyant as you to know everything it takes to be a perfect spouse - by the way, why are you here? I'm guessing it's not because of your supporting and sparkling personality.

Go take your vitriol and venom and spew it over the S who has left you. If you want to give constructive criticism, I'm all for it. But the BS deserves to be flushed down the toilet just like the old bolt.