Divorced in August-I'm a Mess

[irishblessings]

MrLost -
I'm wondering if there is a reason for the lack of resources. Perhaps the resources out there - those that tell you how to heal, take care of yourself, move forward, etc. are the same. Whether you are standing or moving on - you must take care of yourself, teach your kids how to get through tough times, etc. I would like nothing more than my marriage to be healed or at least be on the road to healing. Unfortunately - due to no desire or fault of my own - he has moved to divorce. What really can I do? Legally he can get a divorce. Me, right now - I am working on other facets of my life. Becoming a better mother, friend, daughter, employee, Christian. I believe in marriage. Right now I still believe that I have a moral obligation to behave in a way that does not disregard my value system. Right now, I am not dating - nor seeking dates - nothing like that. I have an obligation to see my children through this time (even my kids that are grown and in college). My son is still at home and a junior - so I have another year before I can begin to share attention somewhere else. He has already lost the attention of his father.
I guess my point to you is that this work - no matter you are moving on or standing - is really the same. It is about waking up every day and making the good moral decisions that allow you to face yourself and face God with a sense of pride.

I hope this makes sense:) - It is late. But I hear where you are coming from...definitely!