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[healthyself]

I am so sorry about what you are going through. Something I have found before I even knew about DB was BAN: Beyond Affairs Network. You can go to their website & find a group in your city. It is for betrayed spouses only. My H had a 2 year physical/emotional affair and continued for most of the last year. Among all of our issues, IT is actually what has brought me to this place now. We are still separated, but we still have hope. For me, it was not all about the affair (although I was devasted for 6 months) then began working on ME this past year. It may be a long journey, but will be worth it in the end. It saddens me greatly that it came to that for her..but it doesn't mean your marraige is over, if you don't want it to be. Learn as much as you can about affairs..the real issues are what you already know. BE PATIENT with yourself. Again, I feel your pain, been there.