You're repeating XH's mistakes, Islander. I know that it does not seem like it to you. Trust me, it is hard to see your own situation when you are in the sh!t. From the outside looking in, where I am at with you, things are much clearer. At least right now.

Do you need to tell her that you won't be friends with her NOW? If so, why?

Why not wait, say, 4 weeks?

What is 4 weeks in a lifetime?

Give it some thought Islander.

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce