Denver, you said it, buddy. I guess what they say is true, a person is NEVER really too old to learn about life. I am 39 years old and I have spent the past three months feeling like I am 15 again.

Hey, from one BITS to another, I wish you the very best of luck tomorrow night. I have a pretty hectic schedule tomorrow, but I will be sending you some positive vibes for the "ride" tomorrow night. Just remember, listen more than speaking, apologize more than accusing, and affirm more than alienating, and you will be fine.

Just today, a good friend of mine was giving me some advice on how to deal with my W. He is divorced and now remarried. He told me that the next time she is "doing her little dog and pony show" in front of me, don't get mad or hurt. Flush your mind and imagine that you are in a coffee shop and the stuff your W is saying to you is actually being said between two people you don't even know. Imagine that your W is a perfect stranger and you are just eves-dropping on her conducting her little show to another man you don't know. How would you think differently of her? Wouldn't you be able to judge her differently if there were no emotion or history involved? It is some sound advice. It is a good way to keep your emotions out of your responses tomorrow night. Just give it a try.

Good luck!!

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...