I haven't done everything wrong...

[islander]

He pursued. Drove her further away. I know the talk I want to have is pursuing behavior, but I have to let her know that I am not going to be like her XH and continue to be "friends". I have not chased her for awhile, and I am not going to chase her. She told me that she just used me to get over him (lie). If she really believes that, she is now using OM to get over me. I pointed this out several weeks ago, and she said that her original statement was no longer true. Makes me want to scream. At that time she said she has never truly been alone and had always been in a relationship, and she was going to finally support herself and figure out what she wanted. Then she moves in with OM. Again, I want to scream.

I feel that this is a conversation that I have to have with her. I know she believes we will still be friends. Even now, she is asking me for advice on something she wants to buy and contacting me about trivial things like everything is great between us.