25 Years Gone...?

[tadpole1025]

Ug! Having a bad day. I still can't figure out for the life of me how W and I could be so much in love and discussing renewing our vows in June and then having the bomb dropped on me in October. I've never seen anyone flip personalities so quickly...or at all. This stuff just baffles me. I know I'm spending too much time worrying about wife. I'm just having a crap day is all.

She is taking our sons out to dinner on Friday evening. I have a feeling that she wants to discuss something with them. D? Who knows. I could be wrong, but it is just a feeling I have. I hope I'm wrong....

I just can't believe how set she is on D. She doesn't even want to try and I am such a bad person in her eyes.

Before she left, she said she had "10 million reasons to leave." I asked her to name five. She could only come up with four. Here they are:

I wouldn't let her adopt a daughter from China
I wouldn't get a vasectomy
I wouldn't let her wear the clothes she wanted

And.....the one that really takes the cake:

When we went grocery shopping, I never took her to the right store! Huh?!?!?!?!

I really do believe that she has lost it.

I'm sorry. I just had to vent.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Venting is fine man, just fine.

I still can't figure out for the life of me how W and I could be so much in love and discussing renewing our vows in June and then having the bomb dropped on me in October

I watch a show called Dexter...not going to recommend it to anyone dealing with an OM and time to kill.

In the show Dexter's sister is in a relationship, she an old boyfriend, and later tells her current boyfriend fiercely and over and over how much she loves him and attacks him...as in ripping off clothes attacks.

It triggered something...like she was trying to convince herself that she did love her boyfriend.

Like my wife did with me before the bomb.

Like, I am willing to bet some others here can attest to as well.

Things looked fine, heck even dandy prior to the bomb.

Like they were trying to convince themselves of the reasons to be married.

And we...we broken LBSes, didn't change and didn't see the need too...right?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

she SEES an old boyfriend

futher mucking edit button.

[tadpole1025]

Are you saying that the wanting to renew our vows was just an act? Not sure I understand what you are saying.

Thanks buddy.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

No man I am not saying it was an act.
I don't know, I am not her. But I am willing to bet cashy money it wasn't an act.

I am willing to bet that it was genuine. That she believed by trying to love harder her feelings would come back.

Thats just my point of view.

Looking back, my wife said I love you more, I'm the best husband ever, had sex and made love more...yes there is a difference.

And then the bomb.

She wasn't setting me up, only a crazy evil person would do that. She was trying to convince herself.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

PS - make a new thread please.

: ) thanks.

[tadpole1025]

No man I am not saying it was an act.
I don't know, I am not her. But I am willing to bet cashy money it wasn't an act.

I am willing to bet that it was genuine. That she believed by trying to love harder her feelings would come back.

Thats just my point of view.

Looking back, my wife said I love you more, I'm the best husband ever, had sex and made love more...yes there is a difference.

And then the bomb.

She wasn't setting me up, only a crazy evil person would do that. She was trying to convince herself.

Man this is just so hard. Will start a new thread. If I can figure out how to do it.