[quote=yellowrose]Right at this moment, the stress has lifted. [/quote}
You are finding peace because you took charge and made a solid decision. Stress comes with doubt, contention comes with confidence, very proud of you.
See your lawyer and protect yourself, absolutely. Divorce, does not mean anything more than not accepting a marriage in the manner in which it is being lived. It has nothing to do with your feelings and emotions. MEANING.... The decisions that are hardest for us can sometimes be those that we make based on our brains rather than our blood pumping organ.
Boundaries are about what our emotional stability needs. If we take too much emotional stress on ourselves we crack. We make bad decisions and we do things that are otherwise arbitrary to our normal thoughts. Part of the ongoing battle is to keep yourself balanced and understand that your decisions have to be based on whats best for YOU, not the "us" that you are used to thinking for.
I do not have a lot of time today (lots of homework), but I will leave you with this. You made a comment about 29 years coming to this, well in the words of the immortal Lissie Bean, Shut It 29 years have given you a ton and you know it. Endings, even shittty ones, do not forgoe our memories and experiences that we have had. Your 29 years is not for nothing because he is failing your marriage, I believe your kids would probably second that....
29 years have given you a ton and you know it. Endings, even shittty ones, do not forgoe our memories and experiences that we have had. Your 29 years is not for nothing because he is failing your marriage, I believe your kids would probably second that.... 
