Honestly from what you've said it would seem that he probably did at some point, but not currently...but I could be wrong.

Does it really matter though if he's not cheating now? You said you could forgive and move past. I still believe you have to find in your own heart what that cheating would mean to you.

I know I overcame and in some ways I think I'm a stronger person for having to deal with it. At the same time I can't even really put it words to explain to you why I was able to forgive.

Virtually everyone I know told me I was crazy to forgive her and want her to come home.

I think you need to do some serious soul searching to understand if you want this M to work at any price.

Good luck tonight when he gets home, and remember no matter what to be calm, listen and validate what he says.

BITS
SIC

Me - 34
W - 33
M - 8 years
T - 15 years
D7, D5, D2
Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY"
W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011