please help on what i need to do.

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If your spouse comes back, it will have to be a decision they made for themselves. If they don't come back for the right reasons, they will never stay.

Truth spoken. Thanks tjack. Just found a book that seems to be describe most of my behaviors in my M. 'nice guy syndrome'
I really have to get over my insecurities and other personal issues before i even consider being in a relationship (even with my W).