"Yup, i am already planning on seeing a C for my issues. I just did not like my W pegging me seeing the C against us getting a joint custody."
This is a great example of why pressure, control and pursuit doesn't work with influencing people. People want to be free to make their own choices. They want it to be their DECISION. Let your walk aways be free - give them space - be the best person you can be - drop the control - drop the anger - let them go.... If your spouse comes back, it will have to be a decision they made for themselves. If they don't come back for the right reasons, they will never stay.
