Not Counting Chickens Yet...

[ScaredinCanada]

Hope, I'm sorry you found the panties because like you said no matter what his explanation it isn't going to be enough.

I remember going through it when my W cheated, I was so naive. I believed all of the crap, until everything finally came crashing down.

I cannot understand how people (both men and woman) cheat? I almost 34 and I've only ever had sex with my W. Sure I've had temptations in the past but I never came close to cheating - I just never would, it's not in me.

Bottom line is though, you need to understand whether this is a deal breaker for you (assuming you confirm it) or if it's just another thing to work through because you want to be with your H regardless of the mistakes (big or small).

I hate everytime I read on here about who has been cheated on or suspects cheating - it brings back horrible memories.

I feel really bad for you Hope, but only you can determine how you will deal with it.

Good Luck! Thinking of you.

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