Great, I should know better by now. I checked MySpace...decided to see if my W had posted anything recently since she hasn't blocked me. Back in Dec she posted: "almost entirely moved out, never been happier!" and a friend asked her "moved out???? i didn't know you were moving... fill me in!"
So then the response from my W 3 days ago is: "oh hells yea back w/ the parents gettin divorced! woohoo!"
This idea of not believing anything they say and only half of what you see doesn't seem to be working in my case.
I changed the cell plan a bit b/c W has a straight talk and I figured I didn't need to keep Internet and text on her AT&T line but need to pay off voice on contract. I didn't tell her; I get a call from AT&T that she called in to cancel her line, I tell them not to do that.
I call her and leave VM that I made changes, she doesn't need to block her # (got call from blocked # night before AT&T called) b/c she wrote it on divorce papers, that she could call me if she needed to contact me, and that I was looking forward to seeing the dogs when I'm home again. After that, last thing from her is a message on Facebook asking if she needs to go to the house to check on the cats. I reply yes....even though we aren't friends on FB anymore and I realized I should've called instead of messaging back.
Got home today and the cats are nowhere to be found. The big screen TV and stand are gone. Looks like an attempt was made to remove the dryer from the basement. U-Haul rental from 2-9-11 on the online bank account record. The simple non-romantic birthday card I sent is here marked return-to-sender. The letter that the DB coach told me to write is burned up and the remnants are in the envelope I mailed it in.
I called W and left a voice-mail saying that she is basically stealing now and she needs to bring back the TV and stand and let me know what happened to the cats because if she gave them away I am going to be very upset since I am doing everything I can to get home and take care of them. Also, told her that we need to discuss all the other furniture she has taken because it is joint property and she can't just take it all and that we will have to deal with the taxes. I tell her that I want to see the dogs tomorrow. Honestly, my tone of voice was not friendly but I didn't cuss or yell, though I might have been loud.
I then called my mother-in-law's cell phone and asked if my W was still living with them or not because I need to know since the cats are gone and she is stealing which isn't going to fly too well.
I don't want to make a hasty decision and get in more trouble but I really feel like changing the locks and calling the police to report theft. I'm going to try and get some professional advice on this matter.
I am so pissed right now I really don't care about reconciling with my W. I'm not going to sign divorce papers b/c once again I don't want to make hasty decisions. I want to remind my W that SHE is the one who wanted to end this and move out, that SHE told me SHE WOULD GIVE UP EVERYTHING (her pets, house, car, everything...her words) and that SHE will owe me alimony b/c she makes more money than me.
I now understand ILYBNILWY, dropping the rope, detachment, or whatever you want to call it.
