I finally had time to sit down and read posts and just spent the last hour catching up fully on everything you've been through the past week. Reading it all instead of skimming and trying to keep up (sorry about my odd comment the other day, obviously I had only skimmed!).
It does seem like a lot of BITS are having a rough week. Maybe it's because we're all highstrung on emotions with V day next week? And the WAS' probably are too. Maybe we'll all even out better come February 15th.
I'm really sorry about this roller coaster you're on this week. I honestly don't understand what your W is up to or why she's so conflicting in her statements to you. I don't think she's necessarily cake eating but I don't understand why you are giving her money? She does need to see life without you, she needs to miss you. You can't be a safety net because you know what happens to safety nets? People fall on them and then bounce right back off and go right back to the tightrope/ledge/craziness they need a safety net for. I know being there for her is a 180 for you and I understand your frustration and not wanting to be a doormat but wanting to 180 and prove you've changed. I completely understand.
I don't have any advice. I think everyone has given you some great advice and feedback and I can't add to it. But I do want to say that I understand and I relate to the doormat stuff though differently. Piecing is no piece of cake though and getting there isn't either. DB is hard at every single stage and not for the weak. We all have our weak moments. Or weak weeks.
However hard it is now, it will get better. Someday we will be happy again, no matter how this all turns out. Believe in that.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
