She does not want to speak of the A at all, she is beginning to have nightmares. She will not tell me about what. She says she has to deal with this her way. She is yet to be open to reading anything from professionals or couples experienced in infidelity recovery.
When she is capable of doing the above. Then you can:
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When will she agree to transparency? When do I discuss transparency?
Answer those questions. Give her a little time, give her as much time as you can, explore opportunities IF they come up, not you bringing them up, but in the end you might have to bring it up.
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If this M survives how am i going to handle the collateral damage?
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"I'm a firm believer that the vast majority of marriages can be resurrected after infidelity," says Weiner-Davis. "And as odd as it sounds, an affair can be a blessing in disguise -- not that I would recommend one because I don't, but through the process of healing, a couple may find that they've grown closer." - from another source
I have found the above to be absolutely true.
You can if you want to.
DR is the book to go with...
And flowers? I think as long as they aren't black, you'll be fine.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
