Really hard time.... III

[MrBond]

Overall you did well in terms of calling her. Now the hard part.

STOP TALKING ABOUT THE D.

When you called her, you should have just talked to her to see how SHE was doing. If she wants to talk about the D, then either tell her, that you just wanted to have a good time and talk to her or get the D talk out of the way and then go back to it being friendly.

You want her to not concentrate on the negative. When you first met her, you would talk to her about her likes, dislikes, what she did, etc. You have to get back to that place again.

So stop talking to her about the D and stop agreeing or going along with her when it comes to it. You can validate the fact that she "feels" she needs to do this, but re-enforce the fact that you don't see it that way.

You've got to show her you're still in it.