I HAVE to point out it the time is not the same for everyone, ok? I also have to point out that I didn't have many, "I know I should BD....BUT I didn't..." instances.
1) About 8-9 months of her seeing me and my changes.
2) 4 months, before she wanted to talk and wanted a chance.
3) Speech. A Letter? Come on? Really? : ) It was less a speech than a statement, a declaration.
A few more points.
I understand that MLC makes some people groan. That's fine I hope they never have to change their minds. My wife had a life crisis, different set of rules on DBing, as in...longer time frame.
I was, well my wife...we were lucky in that she came out of it alot quicker than most. Did my DBing play a part in that? I dunno, it could have been the bagle she had that morning for breakfast.
My DBing played a part in her coming back I believe to my core. Coming back to a fat shmuck still lodged in his computer chair, letting the kids eat...ice cream for dinner? Oh hell what woman wouldn't sign up for that?
One last point: Piecing ever since, every day, some harder than others mostly at the begining. DBing everyday too. The finish line isn't getting back together, its staying together. I kind of want her to throw herself weeping inconsolably across my grave. Just kidding...sort of. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
