As the fantasy of her WAW plan comes crashing down, I am protecting her. But again, if I don't take some action to protect her, then I am the same a*s she left in the first place.
Tough choice and good point.
My on-line gaming addiction is what lead to my neglect of my wife. I ignored her. Later when I LRTed, I ignored her as well. How was it different?
On the surface? If you just look at the ignoring part...nothing.
But, I no longer played computer games. I worked out, when I was around her prior to the LRT I was as fun, and kind as I could be, I GALed, I proved I wanted her but did't need her, I showed her many of my changes. When I LRTed, I took all of that away. All of it. I interacted strictly on a business level, regarding our boys and our bills. I was not mean, I was not nice.
Previous to this, I ignored her because of my failing. Afterwards, I ignored her because of hers. In the middle I showed her that I had changed.
Make sense?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
