If she discovers that she is indeed gay, will that make her a bad mom? Entitled to less access with your child? Why do you need a divorce based on infidelity? Is that something to do with where you live?
I have snooped too. It gives me an ugly feeling. I would rather keep my side of the street cleaner than that. I won't be doing it again.
Cat04-there is not a time you have spoken that I am not convicted and made to look at myself. I think you just might be my hero. I cannot thank you enough for your wisdom.
Should it ever come out that my h has OW and we get a D, then I won't file based on adultery. If it ever comes to that then we will file with irreconcilable differences. I won't do that to my kids. That's just my personal feels on the matter. He has cheated on me once and it was minor compared to an affair. I can imagine how badly that must hurt.
Just think about your motivations.
Rae
Just for protecting myself. If in the end, divorce is the answer, I know things could get ugly quickly. I have talked to my wife about the outcome and how we would wish to go through mediation for both the divorce and custody, but I can not anticipate the fear and actions of the future. The infidelity piece really does not effect the child custody... only the divorce. W and I do not have much. Not many assets. I guess I could burn the evidence today and just hope that she does not go after my house in the end. Those emails only protect me right now from allowing that to happen. The child custody is a different story. Wife fears that I will seek full custody due to the gay affair. I have tried to explain to her that the affair has nothing to do with child custody. The only thing that determines child custody is the welfare of the child. That's it. We agreed for now, that we would seek 50/50 through mediation if that is the case. Again though, this is now. Who knows what she will do many months form now once she comes out of her fears.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
