Will do Jack. Thanks. Sorry for all of the questions. I'm new and just wondering what to expect. I'm working on getting a life but it is just so hard right now.

I think I read on one of these boards that the MLCer can't see things for what they are right now because their true feelings like love for the spouse are buried under a bunch of negative feelings like anger and resentment. When and how do these negative feelings go away so they can realize that they DO love their spouse and their marriage IS worth working on?

Currently:
M 56 XW 57
Sons 38,33,31,29

The Sitch:
Married 26 years
EA w/ OM 9/10
Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary)
Sep 12/10
She wants D 1/11
W files 5/11
D final 10/11
XW marries OM 6/13