26yrs is this the end

[JustStunned]

Kevc, I am also one of the last people to give advice. My sitch is to new to even see if what I have been trying is working. I only see little hints of progress, still I am trying to stay the course and make permanent changes. Some of you sitch is similar to mine, in that W claimed domination, control, and abuse. She has moved in with supportive family encouraging the D.

I agree with Scylla_Charibdis and dbmod professional advice would be best. I understand the financial aspect as I also find myself there. In the mean time have you read DR or DB. I found a copy of DR locally. It has been a very helpful and I continue to read it. Other threads here will provide ideas that can help also. The trick is determining if something is working and sticking to it.

In my own sitch I have been trying to 180 those things I have been able to identify as friction points. I have begun to GAL for me. I have gone dark and I am trying to use LRT. I have validated her feelings of being trapped and controlled. I have sincerely apologized for making her feel that way. This was our last conv F to F. I have gone dark and will wait for her to contact me. I cannot advise you to do the same as each sitch is different, and I am just another traveler on this road. I can tell you there are other things to do like these. They are explained in other threads here and in DR.

IMO waiting on FB each night and responding immediately seems needy to me. You cannot control your sitch, but you can control how you react or contribute to it.