I understand what you are saying, Mach. The trust issue is broken on both sides. No matter how big or how small. In my mind, the trust broken from committing adultery and lying to me for 10 months outweighs the trust broken from checking her email to discover it.
Sparks,
I am going to disagree with you here.
You violated your W. Period. You broke her trust just as badly as she broke yours.
I have four siblings. Growing up, I can't tell you how many times my mother would have to break up two of us, usually threatening to pull the car over, because someone was touching someone else. No one would admit who started it and the other person was always at fault.
That is the impression I got reading your response to Mach.
You agree that the trust is broken, no matter how big or small, but then you say hers was worse. She started it. You are the victim here. And you only did what you did, because she put you into a position to do it.
This is where maturity and self awareness come into play, Sparks.
You can continue playing the "she poked me first" game, justifying your actions, and perpetuating the cycle, or you can be the bigger person, accept and acknowledge that you have both made some horrible choices and have hurt each other, and that it is going to take you time to rebuild on both sides.
The path that you choose, is up to you.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
