Morning DBer's My wife came by as promised to talk about our situation. Our D2 was in the middle of a late nap, which was nice so we could talk. At first we talked about simple things like some paperwork she needed for our D2 insurance. Then she asked me what I thought about our R. I told her to elaborate bc I wanted to listen to her more than do the talking. She told me that she felt we were just in limbo and nothing was changing. She made a comment that we never hardly talk. Makes me think I may have done too much LRT. I asked her if she would like to talk more. She said it was too late for that and she was done. She said she never has moments were she misses me.
Again I am living in our house and she is living at her mom's. She made multiple comments about how much she misses her things. She seems so angry with me about this. I must be doing a good job of acting "as if". She thinks I am really enjoying myself right now and she is the only miserable one. If she only knew. My W actually broke down crying multiple times, something I haven't seen her do in all the time we have been having these troubles.
Now here's the bomb..she asked me if I would file jointly with her. She explained that the process would be easier. I listened to her tell me her reasoning for this. I told her I would not file in any way. She asked me to reconsider and told me she would send me some links on the subject. I told her I would read them and let her know. Our plan has always been that she would wait until the house sold until she would do anything. Now she says that if I don't file jointly, she will file by the end of the month. I don't see how this will help her situation. She already has money problems and this will only worsen them. Also she will still be stuck at her mom's until the house sells. Doesn't make sense to me.
Early in the evening we talked about our friends that were having babies and getting married. This came up again towards the end. We both admitted that we wish we were in there situation. We had always planned on having 3 kids. I know she hates to see our dreams dying too. She says she just can't see herself being in love again. She can't understand how I can still hang on to hope for us, but she doesn't know about DBing!
