I don't want to pour ice water on your hope, but I think you need to go to meet her with your head out of any fog that has clouded your brain.
I am suspicious when a WAW, who is in an A, initiates a R talk. Please do not go to this meeting thinking that she wants to R the M. I am concerned that you could be setting yourself up for more pain. Just go to hear what she has to say. You've already hashed this thing from almost every angle and haven't even heard her yet. It will drive you nuts.
You pretty well laid out your part of the R talk when you and she were texting back & forth.......and I might add, you were too eager in your messages. It was evident to me and I think your WAW probably saw it as well.
I think she will want you to "rescue" her in some way....and that will be what the "talk" will be about. My warning to you is to be very careful what you leap into as she talks. You need to keep quiet and listen very carefully to what she says....and especially to what she doesn't say. When she finishes, then think before you speak. After all, she already knows hos you feel. You've been plain about that.
If she doesn't willingly tell you that OM is completely out of her life, then it's a no-go. That has to be the main issue, or else she is using you to rescue her financially or some other way.
If she kind of puts the idea of R out there.....almost teasing you to see what you will propose, be careful. She doesn't need to come back until she knows 100% that she's ready to work on your M.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
