WAW Staying Positive Is Positively Painful

[ScaredinCanada]

Yes ScaredInCanada... In my experience... Most everything my W said really meant, "I just want to be with someone else and I don't give a $ who is affected, oh and you can have the kids anytime (every weekend lol) because I'll be free then to live my fantasy lifestyle"

Don't think for a second she'll keep her word, mine never did. If I had to do this over I would have hauled but to get it done... The longer they think about it the more they see, oops I didn't think of that, oops I forgot that will coat money, every oops will cost you more cash. Mine didn't think about the big picture, she was so focused on just getting out of the marriage, she never took the time to figure what it would really cost her. NOW she is out to make up for her mistake by squeezing every last penny out of me. I can tell you mine COULD CARE LESS how or if I will contnue on financially.

Do your best to keep a good relationship, piss her off and she will stop at nothing to break you and take as much as possible... Mine is pissed major! After the loss at the first hearing... OMG... 10x worse now.

That's my fear for sure. I don't believe she is lieing to me, but I don't think she realizes how much much she is going to need to do it all on her own. Just yesterday she was taking the girls out to buy a gift as both my older D's have birthday parties to goto. She says to me, "I really don't have the money to pay for it" so of course she asks me to give her the money. Which is fine of course.

I think your right, the more civil and nice you make things the less chance she's going to want to gouge me. In the end though she's likely going to do what's best for her with little regard for me. She's already showing that by wanting out of the M.