I intend to live forever - so far, so good

[ClingingToHope]

Ugh conversation with D8 today.

Apparently, STBXW didn't pay the cable/Internet bill so it's shut off until Friday. I picked up D8 from school and she said STBXW is mad at me. She said the reason she's broke is that I'm not paying my share of the after school sitter and I have the money for cable in my change jar.

I told her there are two sides to every story.

D8 then says it's really D8's fault. If she didn't "make" STBXW buy her toys or take her out to eat all the time then they'd have money. She's really wracked with guilt over some $40 toy she begged for, STBXW bought it and then D8 didn't like it.

I tried to explain that STBXW's money issues aren't her (D8's) fault, but she wasn't buying it. She blames herself.

By the time we got to the house, I had to go back to work, so we ended the afternoon on a down note. I told the after school sitter to let them stay at my house an extra hour so they could watch TV.

Later, I was the scorekeeper at a basketball game and I get a text from STBXW.

"D8 interpreted everything wrong. She asked why we had no internet and cable. Later that night she asked me to buy her a toy and I said no. Later that night I sat down with both and explained to keep Internet we will have to limit eating out and buying toys."

That's a lot different story than what D8 told me. I'm guessing there's truth in both. Whenever STBXW feels stressed she lashes out and I'm usually the reason for whatever ails her -- so I'm betting D8 got that part right.

Anyway, after her text, I responded. "Please tell D8 I am sorry for getting upset."

I just want to get the divorce done so all of this is legal and there's no confusion or interpretation. STBXW keeps hinting she wants me to split the after school sitter costs. And I keep saying I will when the D is done. The reason I'm not now is because STBXW has given me ZERO dollars towards the $15,000 of credit card debt she ran up and saddled me with. That's $300 in monthly payments.

Now, I'm guessing STBXW would like to keep dragging the D out so she isn't on the hook for the settlement and doesn't have to pay her attorney. She owes him $750 so far, I believe.