ow and her s are moving in temporarily with h as the house they rent has sold and she hasn't got anything else. Temporarily???
I think this ^^^^^ does not bode well for H's R with OW. It sounds as though OW has invited herself to live with H. I have always gotten the impression from your posts that H was pretty independent of OW and tended to keep her at arms length. That behavior would be consistent with the typical MLC male script of feeling trapped. I think having OW invite herself to live with him will lead to her expressing expectations to him. It's pretty inevitable that when two people live together it's harder to hide those expectations. My XH had a similar situation with the woman he dated before we met. They had been dating for about 9-12 months when she and her D had to move out of their home. As H/XH told the story, he offered for them to move into his house but there was no significance attached to that offer. He eventually broke up with her (I think ~6 months later) when she told him that she was tired of cooking dinner every evening and expected him to prepare meals on a weekly basis. XH has a real aversion to doing anything in the kitchen (not sure why --- I think it might have something to do with his mother rarely preparing dinner for them as a children because she was drunk)......so in XH's case, the day-to-day rubbing up against his GF led to the destruction of their R. GF met someone on match.com and got M'ed within a year of XH asking her to leave his house. I suspect something similar will happen with your H and OW.
Originally Posted By: dolphin_05
H has been offered a job locally
This ^^^^^ is great news! That keeps your options open for DB'ing and reconciling in the future if you decide that you are interested in this option.
Originally Posted By: dolphin_05
H wants to come to watch D swim at national comp around easter.
This ^^^^^^^^^^^ is great for H's R with D and for your DB'ing efforts if you are still interested in "keeping the door open a crack while H figures out how to get his head out of his ***"
These all seem like positive developments to me. Having OW move in with H DOES add additional time to his marinating (annoying since he had seemed to be moving forward in the tunnel. Ughhh!!!!!), but when that R breaks up it should teach H a lesson.
Cas, it sounds as though you have been keeping yourself busy. I pray that things are really OK with you. I know your road has been difficult over the past 6 months.
