Be the Lighthouse

[zengypsy]

Denver - Sorry to hear that you are having a rough few days. Why are we all seeming to have a bad week?

I think you need to re-group. Your imagination is getting the best of you. Your W doesn't want to let you in full force at the moment. Practice patience. Continue to give her space and I know it [censored] big time. I'm a "fixer" too - I think most women are. So when I heard from my H's brother that my H is making bad choices don't you think I wanted to inquire more? Without a doubt. Because I thought if I knew, I could maybe fix it. WRONG!!! And I didn't indilge for more info. If he's continuing to make bad choices and I am making good choices, people will see that and I will be representing myself better each day. Maybe it will even get back to him how much I've changed. It's like good prevails over evil - healthy prevails over unhealthy.

Our WAS are invaded by body snatchers. I don't like the fact that it seems she's taking advantage of your kindness. I think you need to detach a little more. She can't expect you to always be there to pick up her mess. It's not fair to you.

Keep in mind, you cannot jump right into a reconcilation becuase if she hasn't done any work to get herself better it won't matter how much work you've done. The M is destined to only be more of the same. Reconnection first. Start of being friends again. Like Michele says, you have learn to crawl before you walk. it [censored] having things go at snails pace. Patience is not a word that I had in my personal dictionary, but it sure is there now.

I have high hopes for you Denver. I already know that I'm not going to be one of the lucky ones; for now. But I consider myself a very loyal friend and I will always have your back.

(((HUGS)))