I swear, even at your low points, you ABSOLUTELY. CRACK. ME. UP.
I am so sorry for what you are going through right now. I know that it is heart-wrenching. My H spent a lot of time telling me there was no hope and that it is absolutely over too. But then he reverses his position only a couple of weeks later. He's finally left and started our separation and I think that he's more miserable right now than I am. The point is, you have got to believe in something and you need to act accordingly. Believe you can save your M and then start really doing what Bolt said and lay out a game plan.
You are so awesome and you really do make me laugh. I don't believe for one second that being attracted to you is the only reason H came home the first time. Let grr shine in front of him because you sure do let her shine here and we all have a blast with you!!!