P.S. They can give you anywhere from 5 days to 40 days to vacate if someone buys the home.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
MWG, Sorry for your loss. I don't know how close you 2 were, but a death is always tough to deal with. As for your job, did they give you any reason for your layoff? Any hope for recall? As for the house........ Well, you can stall, but unless you can come up with some money, for payments or otherwise, you won't be able to stay there for long. If you could get some money, you might work something out with the bank, but I know how tough that is for you. I would strongly recommend looking for another place to live..... As for your H.... I really don't know what can be said about that. He is quite comfy in his way of life, he knows you won't do anything, so he doesn't have to make any decisions, so why should he? I have watched this situation for a LONG TIME, and I can tell you that this man has had it VERY EASY in so many different ways. His OW allows him to be unemployed, shiftless, lazy, and sorry. I really can't figure out why she keeps him around. LOL His wife on the other hand is content with these arrangements as you have made no legal moves in 6 years! LOL Well, in all honesty, why would this man change? MWG, this is your life and its your business what you do with it, but if you don't change, he won't change. I know you a spiritual person and prayer is important to you, but I am a FIRM believer that GOD helps those who help themselves.
The auction on the house was postponed as they approved us for the trial modification. Believe me, it is much cheaper then renting an apartment! As a result we are still in the house.
I think I told you I was laid off once again, along with a few hundred other employees. Still looking for work.
I've got one child coming home for the summer in about five weeks, another leaving for the summer June 3rd, and my son will be here all summer.
H is still in contact with the kids....talks to them for at least an hour at a time. He expressed interest in finding a job as well. Says he is having difficulty sleeping at night, stays up late anyways.......all this from the kids.
I'm over here doing my own thing, filling out massive amounts of paperwork for colleges, etc. It's like a full time job!!
I am doing okay though!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
The house...it was in foreclosure and it was to be auctioned off in February but all of that was postponed as they approved us for a trial modification for three months. Have made the first two payments and have one more to go on May 1st. If I don't have a job by then, I am going to attempt to request another three months as I can make the house payments. We'll see.........I had a job when it was approved the first time. I have to provide updated info in May such as salary information but since I lost my job, that is a problem.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I've been working with an agency and on my own and jobs are scarce. My mom even commented about the jobs as she was looking for me just in case I missed something.....nothing yet...it takes a long time but I will be okay probably thru the summer if I don't get one by then.
Phoenix is a horrible, horrible market for jobs, foreclosures....they don't expect things to turn around for at least 4-5 years.
It used to take me less than one week to find a job. Not anymore, but then again, I was much younger at that time and now I am over 50. Not an ideal age to be job hunting as they prefer to hire younger employees.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Yeah, that sounds like here too. There are lots of jobs posted but the companies are either hiring extreme part time (like 10 hours a week) or they are not willing to hire anyone over 25!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I am in and out of temp assignments and the kids are okay.
H is still living at ow's but a funny thing has happened in the last 10 days. She went to visit her relatives in South Dakota and drove out there with her daughter and grandkids. From what I hear, she has not been in contact with H---now that is a first.
And he is not calling me but the kids speak to him. He is on the phone with each kid for hours at a time (even before ow left, it was like this.)
The only thing I do not approve of is when he tells one kid that the other is a pathological liar, will not move back home because he does not want to be around someone like that, and disapproves of the condition of the house....stuff that needs fixing that I cannot do. I have had to call a plumber out a few times, and I have had my share of very expensive car repairs.
That's about all here.......just taking it all one day at a time.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
