WAW tearing up our family

[Denver_2010]

The WAW needs to suffer loss! Come on, you guys! She needs to experience the consequences of her decisions. How is that enforcing any questions about her decisions? She needs to be concerned about what friends and family think.

hmmm... I don't know Sandi. I definitely agree with you to some degree. This is a tough call under 1Step's particular situation. He has already seen signs that his W is questioning her decisions. I think that I'm just suggesting he throw it out there so that she doesn't feel alienated by a complete lack of an invite. I'm definitely not suggesting that he go to her and say that he'd like for her to go, or anything else that would be pursuing. But to just say 'hey, we're going. You're welcome to join if you like"? She would probably already feel that it would be uncomfortable for herself and decline. Wouldn't that feeling suffice as a 'consequence' for her choices?

I guess I'm saying that it seems that 1Step accomplish both.

But then again, I have not been very good at allowing my W to feel the consequences for her choices over the past week. So take my opinion with a grain of salt 1Step.

BITS
Denver

P.S. Sandi - I'd really love to hear your thoughts, 2x4s, and advice on the recent developments with my sitch. My W has made a lot of contradictory statements over the past couple of weeks. She suggested that we have dinner to do R talk and are planning on doing that on Thursday evening. I'd really like to have your perspective if you have the time.