WAW tearing up our family

[Denver_2010]

there's no easy button is there?

Unfortunately no, there isn't 1Step. Lord how I wish that there were.

I have a somewhat different take on inviting your W to visit your parents. I think that you SHOULD talk to your parents and see if you can get them to be okay with it. If you can, and feel comfortable that they will be pleasant with W, then I would just kind of casually throw the invite out to W.

"I'm taking the kids to visit parents, you're more than welcome to come along if you like W" or something along those lines.

I guess I kind of see a small risk that you make your W feel alienated if you don't at least do that.

One danger is to make your W feel that she is being condemned by your friends and family. If she feels that way, it may make it harder for her to come back to the M. I have seen some signs of this with my W. She is very concerned about what my friends and family think.

JMHO though.

Thanks for your words of encouragement on my thread BTW... I needed that.

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Denver