I wanted to wait for someone else to weigh in on this before I kept going.
Karma, I am going to take a wild guess here and tell you what I think your W would find extremely sexy and hard to resist based on the way you describe her and describe yourself.
A little bit of me in you!
You need to grab the bull by the horns here and STAND for what you believe. Based on what you wrote I fail to see that your depression is based on an actual diagnosis. Therefore who exactly is your W to give you the options as to how you are going to see your D?
Look DB is about doing the 180's and validating but in your case the 180 includes finding your stones and manning up. I hope you don't take this the wrong way I am only going based on your description and the reaction your W has when you appear to be some hurt wounded animal. She doesn't feel pity. She feels disgust. She wants a MAN not a jelly fish.
Man I say this with all the support in the world because I think you can really take control here and see some big improvements.
Disclaimer: This post was not written by a DB professional and includes several 2x4's!
