Friends... what a joke! This isn't dating, we're in real marriages and that line just sets me off. Yeah, I'll probably be "friends" with my H if we divorce, but it wouldn't be much of a friendship. I honestly don't feel like sitting around listening to who he's dating, not dating, kissing, not kissing. Not for me.
Yup, you need to get control back and that starts with agreeing to her plans. Things started going my way the second I did that. My H said he wanted to separate and I finally said, "I think that's a fantastic idea!" He stuck around for another 3 weeks before I couldn't take it anymore and helped him out the door. Helped him pack.
He's still playing games, and it really hurts me to the core, but I can't let that show right now. That is the only way to start putting control back in your corner. They HAVE to believe that they might be losing you before you can start to move one way or the other.
My heart hurts for SIC. I know that you are trying so hard and I know the pain that you are in. I'm praying for you.
